YOU’RE BUILDING GOD’S FAMILY. WHO’S BUILDING YOURS?

YOU’RE BUILDING GOD’S FAMILY. WHO’S BUILDING YOURS?

A safe space for Pastors, Church Leaders, and ministry couples to strengthen their marriage while strengthening the Church.
A safe space for Pastors, Church Leaders, and ministry couples to strengthen their marriage while strengthening the Church.

COMMUNITY

COMMUNITY

COMMUNITY

COACHING

COACHING

COACHING

COMMITMENT

COMMITMENT

COMMITMENT

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This is for all full-time ministry couples. Period.

Exclusively for Lead Pastors, Executive Pastors, Worship and Creative, Next Gen and Family, Discipleship, Care, Campus Pastors, Operations and Administration, Mission and Outreach staff.

As church leaders you have a lot on your shoulders and the weight of ministry can sometimes be unbearable: public expectations, unpredictable hours, constant Sunday, and a calling you love. We help you protect your covenant while you carry your call.

WE HAVE A PASSION FOR LEADERS

WE HAVE A PASSION FOR LEADERS

WE HAVE A PASSION FOR LEADERS

Because leaders need a safe place to be human. Because leaders need a safe place to be human. Because leaders need a safe place to be human. Because leaders need a safe place to be human. Because leaders need a safe place to be human. Because leaders need a safe place to be human. 
Protecting your covenant while you carry your calling. Protecting your covenant while you carry your calling. Protecting your covenant while you carry your calling. Protecting your covenant while you carry your calling. Protecting your covenant while you carry your calling. Protecting your covenant while you carry your calling. 
Because leaders need a safe place to be human. Because leaders need a safe place to be human. Because leaders need a safe place to be human. Because leaders need a safe place to be human. Because leaders need a safe place to be human. Because leaders need a safe place to be human. 
Protecting your covenant while you carry your calling. Protecting your covenant while you carry your calling. Protecting your covenant while you carry your calling. Protecting your covenant while you carry your calling. Protecting your covenant while you carry your calling. Protecting your covenant while you carry your calling. 

Real Stats. Real Solutions.

Our passion is to help create a safe space where we can lean into the hard questions with practical sustainable solutions.

Pastors Facing Ministry Burnout

In late 2023, one in three U.S. pastors reported they had considered quitting full-time ministry due to stress, pressure, and emotional exhaustion.

Loneliness in Church Leadership

65% of pastors feel lonely or isolated, and only 49% say they feel well-supported, revealing a deep need for community and relational care in ministry.

Marriage Strain Among Pastors’ Spouses

46% of ministry spouses say it is difficult to find time for their marriage, highlighting the hidden relational cost of serving the Church.

Congregational Demands Impacting Families

59% of pastors report that congregational expectations interfere with family free time, affecting rest, relationships, and long-term health.

OUR APPROACH

OUR APPROACH

OUR APPROACH

We give simple tools that work in busy, high-visibility, people-heavy roles.

LOVE +

Shared vision, clear roles, honest needs, repair skills that turn conflict into connection.

LOVE +

Shared vision, clear roles, honest needs, repair skills that turn conflict into connection.

LOVE +

Shared vision, clear roles, honest needs, repair skills that turn conflict into connection.

LAUGHTER +

Weekly rhythms, communication habits, playful rituals that keep friendship central.

LAUGHTER +

Weekly rhythms, communication habits, playful rituals that keep friendship central.

LAUGHTER +

Weekly rhythms, communication habits, playful rituals that keep friendship central.

LONGEVITY +

Boundaries, sabbath, recovery practices, and a one-year growth plan that actually fits a ministry calendar.

LONGEVITY +

Boundaries, sabbath, recovery practices, and a one-year growth plan that actually fits a ministry calendar.

LONGEVITY +

Boundaries, sabbath, recovery practices, and a one-year growth plan that actually fits a ministry calendar.

What's Inside the Community?

Monthly

Yearly

$197

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WHAT’S INCLUDED IN THE COMMUNITY

2 Live Marriage Sessions Every Month with coaching, practice, and real-time support

Full BMU Course Library Access - videos, worksheets, templates, and tools

Private Couples Coaching Options tailored to your ministry role & season

90-Day Marriage Playbook customized for your ministry calendar

Leadership + Marriage Tools (boundaries, communication, conflict-to-connection, money & marriage mini-lab)

Sabbatical Planning — support for your family, spouse roundtables, and emergency triage access

Monthly

Yearly

$197

monthly

Join today

WHAT’S INCLUDED IN THE COMMUNITY

2 Live Marriage Sessions Every Month with coaching, practice, and real-time support

Full BMU Course Library Access - videos, worksheets, templates, and tools

Private Couples Coaching Options tailored to your ministry role & season

90-Day Marriage Playbook customized for your ministry calendar

Leadership + Marriage Tools (boundaries, communication, conflict-to-connection, money & marriage mini-lab)

Sabbatical Planning — support for your family, spouse roundtables, and emergency triage access

Monthly

Yearly

$197

monthly

Join today

WHAT’S INCLUDED IN THE COMMUNITY

2 Live Marriage Sessions Every Month with coaching, practice, and real-time support

Full BMU Course Library Access - videos, worksheets, templates, and tools

Private Couples Coaching Options tailored to your ministry role & season

90-Day Marriage Playbook customized for your ministry calendar

Leadership + Marriage Tools (boundaries, communication, conflict-to-connection, money & marriage mini-lab)

Sabbatical Planning — support for your family, spouse roundtables, and emergency triage access

THE 2-DAY INTENSIVE

THE 2-DAY INTENSIVE

THE 2-DAY INTENSIVE

BMU Marriage Soulscape

BMU Marriage Soulscape

BMU Marriage Soulscape

Ministry is heavy. Marriage shouldn’t have to be.

The BMU 2-Day Marriage Intensive is a focused, restorative experience designed to help pastoral and ministry couples reconnect, reset, and rebuild with clarity and practical tools.

"Pain shapes us, but wisdom invites us to learn from another’s journey."
"Pain shapes us, but wisdom invites us to learn from another’s journey."

Immediate breakthrough in communication

Couples gain clarity and language to address long-standing tensions, helping them reconnect without shame, defensiveness, or emotional shutdown.

Immediate breakthrough in communication

Couples gain clarity and language to address long-standing tensions, helping them reconnect without shame, defensiveness, or emotional shutdown.

Immediate breakthrough in communication

Couples gain clarity and language to address long-standing tensions, helping them reconnect without shame, defensiveness, or emotional shutdown.

Restored emotional and spiritual connection

Ministry fatigue, burnout, and spiritual distance are addressed head-on, creating space for couples to reconnect with God and each other.

Restored emotional and spiritual connection

Ministry fatigue, burnout, and spiritual distance are addressed head-on, creating space for couples to reconnect with God and each other.

Restored emotional and spiritual connection

Ministry fatigue, burnout, and spiritual distance are addressed head-on, creating space for couples to reconnect with God and each other.

A practical plan for long-term health

Every couple leaves with a custom Marriage & Family Action Plan built around their ministry load, rhythms, needs, and vision.

A practical plan for long-term health

Every couple leaves with a custom Marriage & Family Action Plan built around their ministry load, rhythms, needs, and vision.

A practical plan for long-term health

Every couple leaves with a custom Marriage & Family Action Plan built around their ministry load, rhythms, needs, and vision.

What's Included?

A protected space for ministry couples to be honest and seen – Coaching through emotional pain, spiritual drift, and communication barriers – A practical re-engagement plan for your marriage and family – Labs focused on rebuilding connection, empathy, and forgiveness – A ministry health assessment for couples discerning next steps

What's Included?

A protected space for ministry couples to be honest and seen – Coaching through emotional pain, spiritual drift, and communication barriers – A practical re-engagement plan for your marriage and family – Labs focused on rebuilding connection, empathy, and forgiveness – A ministry health assessment for couples discerning next steps

What's Included?

A protected space for ministry couples to be honest and seen – Coaching through emotional pain, spiritual drift, and communication barriers – A practical re-engagement plan for your marriage and family – Labs focused on rebuilding connection, empathy, and forgiveness – A ministry health assessment for couples discerning next steps

Frequently Asked Questions

Who is Better Marriage University (BMU) for?

Who is Better Marriage University (BMU) for?

Who is Better Marriage University (BMU) for?

What does the $197/month membership include?

What does the $197/month membership include?

What does the $197/month membership include?

What if we’re already in counseling or another marriage program?

What if we’re already in counseling or another marriage program?

What if we’re already in counseling or another marriage program?

How is this different from traditional marriage counseling?

How is this different from traditional marriage counseling?

How is this different from traditional marriage counseling?

Is this for couples in crisis or couples doing well?

Is this for couples in crisis or couples doing well?

Is this for couples in crisis or couples doing well?

Can I join alone if my spouse isn’t ready?

Can I join alone if my spouse isn’t ready?

Can I join alone if my spouse isn’t ready?

How do the private coaching sessions work?

How do the private coaching sessions work?

How do the private coaching sessions work?

Is there a contract or long-term commitment?

Is there a contract or long-term commitment?

Is there a contract or long-term commitment?

Do you offer support for churches that want to sponsor leaders?

Do you offer support for churches that want to sponsor leaders?

Do you offer support for churches that want to sponsor leaders?

How do we get started?

How do we get started?

How do we get started?

If you have any additional questions about how Better Marriage University works you can always reach out to:


better@bettermarriageuniversity.com